..on a random browse, this poem written by some (wise) guy, caught my eye.. the first few lines were pieced together like this....
why should a foolish marriage vow,
which long ago was made,
oblige us to each other now..when passion is decayed?
we loved, and we loved, as long as we could,
till our love was loved out in us both,
but our marriage is dead, when the pleasure is fled.
so ..this got me thinking. well, actually it sort of affirmed what was on my mind for a while. you can probably make a marriage last long, after all the years are just numbers, but how do you make it really work?
the way i see it, a marriage is based on trust & committment between two people. (not necessarily between a man and a woman these days, but rather two people)
but what happens when one person goes astray? well, hypothetically, if you have kids, you will probably give another go at it and see how things are going to play out. so you decide to stick around for the sake of your kids, then you'd probably evaulate the situation & stick around some more for the sake of your grand kids & other family commitments. before you know it, you're in too deep. let's just say you're pushing 60's and still trapped in a lifeless marriage. suddenly you realize you are at your wit's end and enough is enough. but how do you get out especially when a divorce is not an option & more importantly, you have no other means of support ??
can you just walk away when the other person's now sick & almost helpless and needs your care now more than ever but still not appreciative & treats you like a piece of trash?? should you compromise happiness or should you honor the marriage vows, which made you to stay in the first place??
so really..how late is it to call it quits now..?
